For some, online dating is like perusing sweets in a candy shop. For others, it’s a slow and painful slog through hundreds of “nos.” Regardless of how we feel about it, online dating has lost its taboo and is here to stay. But dating sites are like gyms — sure, you sort of know how to use all of the tools, but you’re probably not maximizing them. And worse, if you do it wrong, you could actually be hurting yourself. That first message is oh-so important. It can turn a “maybe” into a “yes” or “yes” into a “no.” My friend and client Sarah told me, “One guy wrote me an absolutely adorable poem about me after reading I was a poet. Good messages to send when messaging someone online through an online dating site. Good First Messages for Online Dating. Yannibmbr on August 19, 2013. I'm going to roll. Example 2: Between your profile and your photos, I have to say, you might be the prettiest girl in this part of the internet Or just tell a joke. ![]() I probably would have ignored him based on his pics and profile. We dated for a month!” So let me be your dating personal trainer and give you some do’s and don’ts of messaging. I know most men and many women decide on whether or not to contact a person by their picture alone. I get it, but we’re trying to find long-lasting relationships, not just flashes in the pan. So take a minute and check out his or her profile. You don’t have to read the whole thing cover to cover, but skim it enough to retain some information about them. Then comment on it. ![]() Good Example: “Hi there, I noticed you mentioned you like skiing. I grew up in upstate New York and skied a lot also, as the winters there can last almost eight months!”. Yes, it’s good to learn about the person and read what they wrote, but don’t go overboard trying to show that you read it. Too much interest too fast can signal that you are needy or desperate. Nobody thinks that’s sexy. Bad Example: “I like your username, Pie&Tri! I like pie as well.
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